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How To Remind Yourself That Self-Care Isn’t Selfish

How To Remind Yourself That Self-Care Isn’t Selfish

Giving yourself the gift of consistent self-care is one of the most important things that you can do for yourself!

If you aren't regularly making an effort to show yourself that you matter, and that your needs are important, then you can become affected in a number of ways. Practicing self-care serves as a wonderful way to nurture your relationship with yourself, and to continue to boost your own self-esteem.

One of the common misconceptions about self-care is that it is a selfish act! It can be easy to fall into a cycle of believing that doing nice things for yourself is a luxury. However, this is a thought process that you can work to overcome.

Today I want to share some guidance on how you can move past the feelings of guilt to truly embrace a meaningful self-care practice!

What Is Self-Care?

Before we jump into the great ways to remind yourself that self-care is important, let's take a quick look at what I mean by this.

Acts of self-care are those positive things that you consciously do for yourself. It is any action that is done deliberately to take care of your mental health, your emotional health, and your physical health. It sounds simple, right? But often it is a difficult thing to allow ourselves the time to do.

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Taking care of all of these aspects of our health is essential if we are to continue to function as happy, healthy people — yet so often we begin to feel as though we don't deserve to focus on ourselves in this way.

If you are unsure of how to get started, then check out my past post on How To Embrace Self-Care At Home!

Talk To Yourself

Understanding what your own needs are important is the first step to being able to meet them. Often this is something that we just don't do — and this can be for a number of reasons.

You might find that it simply feels quite odd to check in with yourself, and to bring your thoughts and feelings to the surface. However, this can be a fantastic exercise in self-discovery.

Talking to yourself doesn't have to be a conversation that you literally have out loud. It can be through thoughts, or even through writing things down. The important thing is to engage your mind to really concentrate on how you are feeling, and to try to understand why that is.

Kindness and patience should be at the forefront of all of the conversations you have with yourself. These should not be opportunities to give yourself a hard time, or to dwell on the negativities that may arise. Instead, use this time as a safe space to explore your own mind.

Visualise The Life You Want

It is natural to aspire to be happier and healthier, or to live a more fulfilling life. These aspirations can take many different forms, and will be unique to each of us, but can often be worked towards in a similar way.

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When you embrace self-care as a permanent feature in your day to day, then you are helping to move into a life that is lived with more purpose. This is because you can begin to know yourself, to know what you want from life, and to know how to move forwards and achieve those goals!

Visualisation is key here because it encourages us to dream, and to let those dreams develop. When we visualise what we want our lives to look like in the future, then we can make realistic steps to working towards these dreams.

Journal On The Benefits

Writing a record of how self-care helps you to feel empowered and motivated is a great way to validate these actions.

You may often find that if you don't take care of yourself in this way, that your enthusiasm begins to drain, or that your energy levels and your mood become inconsistent. These are all natural symptoms of not taking enough time and care to recharge your own batteries — and, as we are discovering, it is so important that you prioritise doing so.

When you keep a written record of how self-care is helpful to you, then you will see the countless benefits to this concept. You can also begin to see how you feel personally when you aren't engaging in regular self-care acts, and this can also serve as a reminder to keep it up!

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Writing a journal can be a self-care act in itself, and you may find this time to be incredibly therapeutic.

Acknowledge The Balance

Acknowledging the balance that self-care brings into your life, and expressing gratitude for it, is a great way to remind yourself of its importance.

In those moments where you feel great and at peace with yourself, try to give a moment of thanks to the processes that allowed you to reach this point. Hold these things in your mind and encourage yourself to connect your present state with these self-care acts.

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